BALI BALI

As part of the FunEmployment World Tour, my husband and I decided it would be a great opportunity to use this bit of time off to take a proper holiday.  When you’re “working for the man,” he tends to give you only a few weeks off at best, which usually gets consumed by family visits and short getaways.   Living in The States puts us so far from one of the coolest areas in the world:  Southeast Asia.   Bali is the vacation destination Heavyweight Champion of the World, with the heavy gold belt locked tightly in a case in Denpasar and everything.

Lots of people get Bali confused with Bora Bora – since most Americans probably don’t realize even where it is unless they hit maps.google.com, I’ll give you a quick geography lesson.

Bora Bora is the one with those cute little huts over the water.  It’s the one that was featured in the hit movie Couples Retreat, starring Vince Vaughn and Kristen Bell.
Bali is the one in Indonesia, the older cooler sister that Hawaii aspires to be but will never quite make it.  Bali is a small island a few hours flight north of Australia, which makes it a top destination for the Aussies.  (Ladies, think:  good food, cheap drinks, beach, and hot accents!)  For us Americans, it’s quite a bit further of a flight, regardless of what coast you are on.  However, I must say it is SO WORTH IT.

Have you ever been to a beach with temple gates greeting you?  Have you drank out of a freshly-cut coconut for $1?  (and I’m not talking that Vita Coco water Madonna came up with and sells for like a billion dollars a cardboard carton)  Have you ever ate a fruit bowl in America with “seasonal fruits” that consisted of dragonfruit, watermelon, papaya, strawberries, mango, banana, and chia seeds the size of your fist?

Stay tuned to the blog for more on our trip to Bali.  We are spending the first week in Canggu (pronounced Chang-goo), a small surfer beach town that is the most up-and-coming area without getting all touristy.  It’s amazing!  Next week we will be going to Ubud for a few days, and the rest is still undecided.  Leave your ideas for us on the comments, and be sure to follow my instagram:   WorldWanderslut

FunEmployment: the Rebirth of the Wanderslut!

Last week on an emergency Friday morning conference call, two mere weeks before Christmas, my caring, loving, employee-centric company gave the greatest gift of all to our entire salesforce:

A LAYOFF.

How thoughtful of them!

In reality it is very nice to have the holidays to spend with my family and reassess what we want to do at this point in our lives.  California is awesome and we really love most parts of living here.  Like the weather and the fish tacos. And the sunsets and palm trees.  And lack of mosquitos and freaky bugs you find in other parts of the world.

However, I watched the incredible documentary on Netflix about Tony Robbins and he said something that really stuck with me.

“Everyone needs a compelling future.  Everyone needs something to move towards.  If you don’t have something to move towards, you settle for where things are.” – Tony Robbins

More to come on this later – we are kicking around the idea of taking a month off and going to Thailand and Bali, possibly Malaysia or the Philippines.   There will always be more jobs that offer the hope of impending layoffs waiting for us when we get back.  It’s America, after all!  The Land of Opportunity!

In the meantime, to ward off my further exploration into the depths of Netflix during the next two weeks leading up to the holidays, I’ve decided to highlight the best of the best things to do here in San Diego from a Local’s point of view: The 12 Days of San Diego!

Side note:  Some people may be pissed that they got laid off, but I’m actually really grateful for it.  This couldn’t have come at a better time:  I get to spend the holidays with my family, enjoy our beautiful city while it is not overrun with tourists, and do some goal-setting for the new year.

Cheers!!!

The Freedom Challenge Finale, a week late but for good reason.

You may remember the Procrastination and Overwhelm subject I wrote about during this 10 day
challenge, culminating in my resolution to dedicate at least 1-3 hours/day to my new business idea.  This is an idea I’ve had for the past year or so, due to my obsession with my husband’s former career and my affinity to ever flipping episode of Below Deck.  Hey yachties, if it makes you feel better, Captain Lee and Chef Ben are my favorites.   (Not some of those famewhore wackjobs they picked up off the street. I’m talking to you, Rocky, Beef-Cheeks-Leon, and #TrevorTheSeniorDeckhand)    PS, if you are currently a yachtie or wish to get into the business, visit  My Yacht Squad and sign up to get all the latest info!

Well, I’m happy to say, that’s the reason why this particular blog challenge entry is a few days tardy to the party.  Also, I found out that the free trip to Bali had already been given away, so I wasn’t really all that motivated to prioritize this entry in front of all the progress I was making on MYS.  (Shhhhhh.)

WHAT I ENJOYED MOST about this blog challenge, is that it made me start something I’ve been thinking about for years, but was more or less afraid to do.  I mean, why would anyone care what I have to say?  This Freedom Challenge really made me step out there and get comfortable with it, and it gave me a lot of direction.  Also, creative activities tend to let me unwind a little more productively and longterm than just drinking Pineapple Sculpin and mimosas during my time off.

I’ve created so many more goals and have stuck with them.  It’s funny the domino effect that happens!   Bikini bod should be here sometime by mid-fall, just in time to cover it with sweaters and…sit on the couch watching TV for three months —wait a minute!  what the f^&*%!   Bad timing on my part.  Unless…there’s no such thing as bad timing, and we just move to a warmer place for the winter like a family of Canadian snowbirds chasing the summertime 95 miles an hour down the Florida Turnpike.

You’ve seen them before, don’t you act like I’m the alone in this observation.  Those grannies can really haul some ass!

MY FAVORITE CHALLENGE DAY was coming to terms with reasons behind procrastination and overwhelm.  This one is my favorite, because I set my intention for MYS (the new business).  Rather than continue to ignore it like a huge elephant in the room, simply because I don’t know how it will materialize.  I’m not a coder.  I’m hardly technologically gifted – we have 4 remotes, and I’m pretty sure my 9 month old knows how to work them better than I do.  However, creating my Wanderslut blog and learning some of the basics about WordPress has really made the other project not so daunting.  This challenge has been great training wheels, which I didn’t realize until I started back at it again.

The biggest takeaway from this whole experience is to really think about what I want and have clear goals about it. Too often, I focus on the big picture and where I want to be work-wise, lifestyle-wise, etc.  This makes my head spin and I end up just avoiding it and finding something more fun to do.  So breaking it out into small steps, even if it is as simple as this 10-day challenge, is really the key for me.   I’m amazed at what I have accomplished and learned in the last 2 weeks, it is really incredible.

So next steps:  we have booked tickets to go to the Fort Lauderdale International Boat Show, to preliminarily launch this new website.  (pun intended, wheeeeee)  It’s just too important to pass up, not to mention super fun with superyachts!

This gives me a hard deadline for having the website functional enough to begin promoting it, which is holding me accountable to make all the steps come together between now and then.    I’m really productive under pressure.  I’m also a bit bat-shit crazy at times while under pressure, but hey – it adds a little mystery to the old relationship.

Speaking of bat-shit crazy:  This deadline also gives me something to focus on besides this Godforsaken election coming up.  I mean, COME ON.  These two jokers are the best we can do?  *facepalm*

Cape Town, South Africa

Also, we have booked another trip to South Africa over the Christmas holidays to visit the family.  To ramp up our excitement and share the journey, my goal is to do a weekly series on the beautiful country.  Sharing some of the highlights from our previous trips, including what
wineries to go to, where to find the best curry, and how to say certain swear words in Afrikaans!

Stay Tuned!  And thank you for your support and feedback on my blogs so far.  I had no idea anyone else would enjoy it as much as I have, too.  Cheers!

Choose Your Adventure!

Adventure!  That’s the name of the game.  And the name of today’s challenge, in which we were just supposed to go out and have fun doing whatever we wanted to do.  Which is pretty much what I do everyday anyways.  If you’re going to live in San Diego near the beach and NOT go there at least occasionally, then you’re doing it wrong.  Just sayin.

Especially yesterday, it was such a g-o-r-g-e-o-u-s day in San Diego, and I decided to take the little man with me on a walk down to the beach from our house.  This was a little exercise in understanding what every single day of my life is going to be like once we are living our lifestyle by design. Remember, Freedom is the goal!

So after watching the Chargers play a decent game and then look like they were going to give it away faster than a Catholic School Girl at her senior prom, I decided to AVOID DRIVING BECAUSE OF THE HUGE AMOUNT OF TRAFFIC DUE TO MOTORBOAT RACES ON MISSION BAY  get some exercise.

Little Mac decided to toss his hat out of his stroller, leaving me with two adult-size trucker hats with equally inappropriate logos for a 9 month old. CHOICES!

Finally my internal magnet led us straight to OB Noodlehouse, a place you absolutely MUST go to when you visit San Diego.  If you don’t, then you should be ashamed of yourselves and never find yourself around these parts again!  I’m not kidding.

They have the most awesome pho and happy hour specials out the wazoo.   Plus Stone (Delicious), Ballast Point, Modern Times, and a few other local craft breweries are on heavy rotation.

We stopped along the half mile-long OB Pier to take some pictures (#duh) and watch the freak shows on the grassy knoll below.   On a typical day,you can see hobos, people who left home and will be asking for a key to their moms’s place again once it gets colder, acroyoga, tight-rope walkers, and a family of mimes!   It’s like a human zoo!

Then we walked back home, watched episodes of Caribbean Life on HGTV and yelled at our neighbor’s dog to shut the hell up.  Pretty typical Sunday evening around here!

What’s your adventure?  If you had to choose what you would do on your perfect Sunday (or vacation everyday), what would it be?  Leave a comment if you’re feeling generous!

XX

How I Manage to Procrastinate While Procrastinating: It’s a Science

“A year from now you may wish you had started today.” -Karen Lamb

Ironically, I procrastinated on the Procrastination-themed blog challenge of the day.  I got overwhelmed that the challenge was nearly over, that I wouldn’t have someone telling me what to do every day as an assignment, and then wtf was I going to do with myself?  I waited like 36 hours to even open it up. Maybe it was the P-word used in front of me to begin with? Maybe it was just that I woke up to a beautiful Saturday in San Diego and hit the snooze button on this whole blogfest.   We’ll just go with that.

It’s so easy to get overwhelmed, it happens to me A LOT.  If I think about the whole huge assignment, i.e. creating a remote career out of nowhere with no experience having a business of my own and really just a vision board that I look at across the room.

Plus, remember my blog two days ago:  SHINY EXPRESS!  Shiny Express is so much for fun to focus on than the dull, slow, black-smoke emitting Overwhelm Local.

Are you following along?  Are you noticing my procrastination continuing even as I write this sentence?

So to combat this, what I have found that works is just focusing on the small parts.  Taking one step at a time and committing to putting those pieces together, rather than trying to build Rome in the time it takes to finish an episode of Below Deck.  BTW did you notice what happened with Kate and Chef Ben this week?  OMG.  That episode was the —  shit.  I did it again.

Let’s just skip to the end of the story and summarize before I toss my computer on the couch and settle into a Below Deck Marathon:

GOAL:  More freedom in my life.

SOLUTION: Create a successful online business, which is as profitable as possible, while taking the least amount of time every day as humanly possible.

Captain Lee, not my husband

I will let you in on a little secret (don’t worry, it all ties into Below Deck):

My husband has a background in the yachting industry – and I’m obsessed with it.  I think it is so super cool and love talking about it with him and any of his friends.  I’ve come up with a website idea that will revolutionize the yachting industry.  I secured all the tools and means necessary to develop the website, but didn’t know how in the f*** wordpress worked.  Now, after participating in this blog and developing the entire thing myself, I’ve learned enough that I can transfer these skills to the other project and not make it look like a 3rd grader put it together for a science project.

Then, I let fear of failure and also fear of success hamper my progress.  Honestly, it sounds so stupid typing that, but it’s totally true.  We humans are weirdos sometimes.  But it is totally natural and I’m happy I’m not alone on this one.

“Hellooooo, Procrastination and Overwhelm, nice to see you again!  Have a drink.  Or 7.  Here’s a magazine.  Come on in and we will find a way to distract me for the next few weeks, so I don’t have to make any actual progress on this project!!”

When you have Procrastination and Overwhelm visit your doorstep like I do, it helps to paste this quote everywhere:

A Month/Season/Year from now, you will wish you had started TODAY.  

This blog post is in response to Natalie’s 10 Day Freedom Plan Blog Challenge Day 7

Tribal Serendipity

Are there such things as coincidences?  Some people believe that there aren’t.  That things are set up for you by what you put out into the universe, with the right timing, based on what you’re ready for at that moment.

Today’s blog focus is centered on how to find your tribe.  The handful (or more, if you’re lucky and a A++ networker) of people who you can emulate and who mentor you straight down your very own success path.find-your-tribe-love-them-hard

I started this blog challenge to light a big old fire under my booty, but it also had a focus on the same themes that I’ve been studying for the past few months.  Each day we are emailed a short video from Natalie Sisson, who outlines the focus for us and encourages us to write/video/smoke signal our thoughts on the topic via our blogs.

Today I’m supposed to name 1-2 people who are leading the life I’d like to lead myself, and what  one question I’d like to ask them.  Knowing me, the question would have about 6 subparts and an interpretive dance.  For the record, I’ve never made it completely through the dance before.

be-a-frhThe first two people who came to mind were Marianne Cantwell, the Free Range author, and the other is the Freedom-Planning leader of this blog challenge, Natalie.   At first I thought it may be kind of like picking the friend who picked you to play catch, because you kind of felt obligated.  But after thinking some more, I realized that both Marianne and Natalie have very similar (if not nearly identical) approaches to this whole remote-living lifestyle.  It’s exactly why I was drawn to this challenge and actually am completing it in the first place.  (it wasn’t the possible free trip to Bali, because I found out about this whole thing a week after it started.  But I totally would have accepted a free trip to a Bali Mastermind, if that’s what you’re offering.)

I digress.  These two incredible ladies are really inspiring to me.    One main reason being that they are genuinely dedicated to spreading the wealth on this freedom while working lifestyle.  Also, they’ve been there and done it themselves.  They aren’t hiding behind a computer screen, leading some shoddy webinar in order to make a few bucks.

So guess what?  Natalie is here in San Diego right now.  How random! What are the odds?  She had challenged us to reach out to the people we want to meet/question, so I did. We shall see what happens!  If anything, I will take it as a sign that I’m on the right path.  Like the 11:11 smoke signal of tribal serendipity.

This blog post is in response to Natalie’s 10 Day Freedom Plan Blog Challenge Day 6

FREEDOM: Not Just A George Michael Song Anymore

Guys, I recently make a big mistake.  HUGE.  I stepped in it big time.   

Now I’ve started reading The 4-Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

It gave me ideas.  It made me dream and believe in a work/life greater than the metrics-driven, conference-call-filled, corporate sales job that I’ve been conditioned to think is the only option for me over the past decade and a half.

HOPE HAS BEEN RESTORED.

You see, I have a job that I really do often loathe appreciate and “feel-the-feelings-of-gratitude” for occasionally on a daily basis.  It allows us to pay the bills, have nice things, and take some time off for a couple of weeks a year.  Sure, I’m grateful to be in a spot that lots of people would love to crack into, but there’s got to be more to life than just enduring the week days so you can cram as much fun into Friday 5pm-Monday 7am as possible.

Recently a former coworker passed away in a head-on collision, during a field day with his pharma sales manager.  So tragic and especially for his family, as he leaves behind two kids and a wife.  Who knows if he liked his job, his manager, or driving to doctor offices every day?   It just reinforced all the feels that I have been having about life/work balance shift and escaping from what Marianne calls, “The Career Cage.”

Don’t get me wrong, I’m all about accomplishment and working smart and being the best I can be. (See: Perfectionist.   See Also: Obsessive.)   But I’m also a huge believer in FREEDOM.  That’s what it’s all about.  (sorry, Hokie Pokie)   The internet is providing us with unlimited potential to create these sort of remote working lives, which frees up time to spend with the ones we love.

Freeeeeeedoooooooommmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.

So Mr Ferriss’s book has really inspired me to take action.  Like the saying goes, “A year from now you’re going to wish you had started today.”   I think Benjamin Franklin said that.  (kidding, I’m just making sure you’re still reading)

Til Tomorrow, Ciao!

This blog post is in response to Natalie’s 10 Day Freedom Plan Blog Challenge Day 2

Seth Godin & Free Rangin’

“Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, maybe you should set up a life you don’t need to escape from.” – Seth Godin

Wow.  This says it all, end of blog post.

Just Kidding.

I recently read this awesome book, Be a Free Range Human, and it was one of the best books I have read in a long time.  Hint: You’re going to be hearing about this book a lot, if you stick around long enough here.                                    be-a-frh

It really inspired me from page 1 and also gives actionable ways to create the life you really desire (while still paying the bills).   I guess not everyone will react the exact same way, but for me…it spoke to me.  This book was exactly what I need at this time, and it makes me super excited!

Marianne Cantwell speaks in a #realtalk, conversational way to really make you get to the heart of your strengths, desires, and motivations behind creating your own laptop life.  (if that’s what you want.  maybe you just want to make cupcakes like one of the other Free Rangers she profiled in the book.)

I also decided to participate in Natalie Sisson’s 10 Day Freedom Plan Blog Challenge.  I figured this will be the kick in the pants I need to get going already.  Do you see a pattern here?

I think most of my challenges are: (in no particular order)

procrastination/analysis paralysis/not feeling comfortable with the unknown/fear it may actually work out and then I’m accountable for knowing what the F%$# I’m supposed to be doing/etc, etc.

However, I keep getting drawn to Seth Godin’s quote above—create a life you don’t need to escape from.  What would I be doing if time off from my job as a corporate slave wasn’t an issue?  What if instead of waking up every Monday morning to a soul-sucking inspiring conference call, where we get told whether we are good enough or not,…

Sorry, I blacked out daydreaming.  Oh, you really wanted me to answer that question?

Okay.  My ass would be taking my little son and my big husband and furry furkids everywhere around this great-big-beautiful world as humanly possible, while enjoying time at home together when we want, too.  Working remotely from wherever we happen to be,  handling any website/customer inquiries in the morning, and then going out to enjoy the beautiful world around us.  Oh yes.  That’s where you can find me.   Ciao!

This blog post is in response to Natalie’s 10 Day Freedom Plan Blog Challenge Day 1